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emmaohara 
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Posted: 28 December 2009 at 7:35pm |
Hey ladies Help!!!!!!
My 21 month old is going through a real no no no no no stage. If you ask her to do anything she will say no, if she wants anything to eat its no, put her undies on no she has to choose it and what to wear/eat/do get out of car seat at her speed etc etc
ARRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!
What can I do she is driving me mad, if she gets really mad I put her in her room, if I put her in timeout she just gets up again and again and ends up back in her room...ekkk she is so head strong its her way or the high way
Anyone else had a strong willed little madam and how did you deal with it....? 
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myfullhouse
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Posted: 28 December 2009 at 8:14pm |
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Jack went through a stage of saying no. If it was something I wasn't fussed about e.g. I asked if he wanted something to eat and he said no then often I would say ok and continue on with something else, then he would straightaway say he did want it. I think at those times he just wanted to say no and didn't really know what it meant. Could have also been attention seeking and when I effectively ignored him it ruined the plan
Do you give her choices? Maybe she is trying to get control over something? If you aren't currently giving her choices then maybe you could let her choose the pink top or the purple one (or whatever you are happy with). If she has some contrl over something then she may be happier
Good luck!
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Nikki
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Posted: 28 December 2009 at 10:37pm |
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I did exactly what Linzy said -- I used to (and still do) give him choices - do you want an apple or pear? (play with your cars or go outside) etc .... he will usually pick one, and if he says no, thats fine, no food. He changes his mind pretty quickly if he did actually want something to eat!
Otherwise I'd try not to ask a question, and just tell him whats happening, then he can't answer no so easily (and if he did I'd just ignore it and carry on).
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Cassie
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Posted: 29 December 2009 at 9:20am |
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Those tactics worked really well with Ivy when she went through that stage and we still give her choices now, she's just the kind of kid who needs to feel like she has some control. Good luck!
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Posted: 29 December 2009 at 11:03pm |
just dont ask questions  I was worried about Tom as he was over two before he said "yes"....and he is an excellent speaker. Now if he is in a "no"mood I ask him something that he cant resist and that usually breaks the cycle with a big cheeky smile
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Posted: 30 December 2009 at 10:25am |
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Choices work brilliantly even when they are older.
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Posted: 30 December 2009 at 9:56pm |
Uggg - I feel your pain. Madd sounds exactly the same at the moment Driving me mental. Well done with the TTing though!
ps. we miss you in the MarchApril mummies 
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EmDee
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Posted: 01 January 2010 at 6:41am |
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sunnyhoney
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Posted: 02 January 2010 at 8:57pm |
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right there with you atm...going through the same thing with Joy. I find it really difficult with TTing...she says "no" to everything TTing related too but is clearly ready for it.
It's very tiring and frustrating isn't it. I find saying "ok then" and just ignoring it works and giving choices sometimes works too.
Stay strong...hopefully they grow out of it......soon!
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Posted: 03 January 2010 at 7:58pm |
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I often give choices that aren't directly related to what I want her to do. If that makes sense. For example, if I need to change her nappy and I say "time to change your nappy"... she will say "NO!" So then I say which toy would you like to take while I change your nappy, this one, or this one?" and then she is focussed on the choice of which toy, rather than the nappy changing, and after she has chosen her toy then 99% of the time she will get her nappy changed no fuss.
I guess it makes her feel like she has more control over the situation, or something.
The other thing was that if she doesn't stay in time out then she gets time out in a playpen in the hallway, so she can't run away. That seems to work pretty well.
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