Toddler wont sleep in own bed

DD goes down to bed fine. But at 9-10pm wakes up throws a tantrum and wants to sleep in bed with me. By that time im already in bed.

Everynight i take her back to her bed and settle her down and when she is asleep i leave. But this doesnt last long an hour later we go through it again until i give up and let her sleep with me

Im getting no sleep. She wont go to DP at all. She is very attached to me during the day and she just doesnt want me to leave at night either. I really cant have this going on with a newborn

Any ideas how to get her to stop waking and to sleep on her own lol?? I have explained this morning that there will be no more sleeping with mummy and she is a big girl but we will see if that does anything

Mum2ET wrote: is it possible for you to put a bed in her room for you to sleep on for a couple of days so she gets used to sleeping in her own bed first?  And then gradually work on getting her to stay in the room by herself.

No its not She sleeps fine in her bed for day naps. Goes down without a problem. Its just her wanting to be near me at night.

I should follow that up with the harder way! If thst doesn't work then the other way is the no communication return to bed. No eye contact or talking. Just back into bed and go.

My thoughts are that if you are happy to have her in your bed for a wee while, say, a week or two, then that might help to satisfy her need to be close to you, and then you can work on getting her back in her own bed, or to accept comfort from her daddy. It sounds like she really wants to be near you, and trying to get her in her own bed at this point is leaving both of you exhausted. I don't believe that you'd be making "a rod for your own back"' if you just "gave in" to her need to be close to you at night. If anything I believe it will help her to continue feeling secure with you, and once this phase passes, which it will, then she will be more willing and ready to sleep by herself.

Eta: but you know me,'I would say that :p

Edited by SoyBasedMama

Could you let her fall asleep in your bed then go and sleep in hers?

Arianne went through a phase like that it went on for about 1 1/2 weeks. It didnt bother me as it was just me in the bed so I let her sleep with me and she eventually stopped waking up and coming into my bed.

But I can see how it will be very difficult with two people in the bed and one being pregnant, that bump just wont move lol.

I would also say be strong and just keep putting her back to her bed she will eventually stop waking up and coming into your bed.

This has been going on for about 2 months now I normally just put up with her in our bed. But DP is grumpy he cant sleep & now i cant really sleep either.

I tried to bribe her last night before bed telling her id buy her a new "bag" if she slept in her bed. She said yep ill be good etc. But no 4am she came into our bed lol. Better than 10pm though

I have a similar issue but not every night. I have been resettling her exactly the same as I do at bedtime ie reading another bedtime story and turning the music on (lullaby cd). Then I tell her that I will be back to check on her in 5 minutes and I actually go back after 5 minutes and look in to her room from the doorway and tell her I'll be back to check after another 5 minutes. Sometimes I have to resettle 3 or 4 times a night but she can go for a week without having to do this. The phase seems to come and go but usually coincides with clingyness during the day or some separation anxiety. I try and make sure I spend at least half an hour playing with her during the day (not easy for a single working parent) and that having my 100% attention seems to make her feel more secure and not need my help to resettle at night.

I hope you find something that works for you soon. Its not easy when you don't get enough sleep.

Thanks T_Rex. I used to sit in the bathroom and play with G when she was in the bath but she has recently decided she is a big girl and wants to have showers like mummy instead. I still sit in the bathroom with her and we play silly games with her bath toys while she is in the shower but she generally only has 5 minutes and then she is over it and wants to get out. I have been trying to get dinner ready earlier and play together before bed instead since her shower takes so much less time now.

well we had this problem until about a week ago, when Emily all of a sudden decided that she now sleeps on the couch..... we try to put her into her bed when she is asleep but its all hell when she wakes, she has never been a good sleeper so now we leave her to sleep on the couch.
Good luck! you need your sleep with a new baby on the way.